Wani irin yara ne yanzu, dama,
Babu adalci a gare su,
Muna ciyar da lafiyarmu,
Amma wannan ba kome ba ne a gare su ...
Yu. Song daga m / f "Masu Bremen Bremen"
Ba abu mai sauƙi ba ne iyaye - ba wanda zai yi jayayya da wannan. Wani lokaci 'ya'yanmu suna amsa ƙaunarmu da kulawa, kamar yadda muke gani, rashin dacewa. Abokan zuciyarsu, rashin tausayi, lokuta na rikice-rikice suna nuna mana maras kyau. Amma bayan haka, babu wani ɗan yaro marar tausayi, kuma dukan iyalan suna tafiya ta hanyar kwanciyar hankali da kuma lokutan wahala, rikicin. Dole ne a tuna cewa irin wannan "sauyewa" wani tsari ne na ci gaba.
Da matsala na farko da yaron, iyaye sukan hadu sosai da wuri - lokacin da yaron ya yi shekara 1 (shekarunsa na iya bambanta daga watanni 9 zuwa 1.5). Kusan dukkan yara a nan gaba za su shiga cikin rikici a cikin shekaru 3, shekaru 7, kuma, ba shakka, a lokacin yaro. Duk waɗannan lokuta masu wuya suna haɗuwa da saurin yarinyar zuwa sabon mataki na 'yancin kai, balaga: a cikin shekara 1 da jaririn ya fara yin tafiya ba tare da kansa ba, a cikin shekaru 3 - ya zama babban mai shiga tsakani, da sauransu. Sabbin hanyoyi da dama da ya kamata ya kamata ya kamata yaron yaron, ya kasance a cikin kansa - yana da kyau cewa kawai a lokuta masu wuya ne wannan tsari ya ci gaba da jin dadi.
Sakamakon rikicin 7 shekaru
A yau zamu tattauna game da rikicin yara game da shekaru 7. Kamar yadda aka riga aka ambata, rikicin na shekaru 7 a cikin yara, kamar kowane, yana da dalilan nasa. Da fari dai, wannan rikici ya haɗu ne da samuwar asalin ɗan adam. Yanzu jariri ba dan ɗa ba ne, jikansa, da dai sauransu, har ma da dalibi, ɗalibai. Yana da tasirin jama'a tare da hakkokinsa da alhakinsa. Yanzu dole ne ya gina dangantaka tare da takwarorinsa kansa, malamai. A cikin 'yan uwansa za su bayyana, ban da iyaye, sababbin mahimman bayanai (malamai). Zai fara yin la'akari da kwarewa akan kwarewarsa (alamun makaranta), ba tare da amincewa da ƙauna na iyaye ba ko rashin yarda da hali. Dole ne ya yi wasu kwarewa da yawa, ba ma ambaci samun sabon ilimin a kai tsaye a cikin darussan ba. A maimakon wasan ne a matsayin muhimmin aiki ya zo sanadiyar ilmantarwa. Duk wannan yana haifar da canji a fahimtar da sanin kai, sake dawowa da dabi'u, sauyawa cikin tsari na manyan al'amurra.
Alamomin rikicin shekaru 7
Lokacin da yaro ya yi shekaru 7 ko 8, kuma yana yiwuwa, tun yana da shekaru 6, za ka iya samuwa a cikin alamun bayyanar da ya faru na shekaru 7. Cutar da ba a kamu da cutar ba shekaru 7 yana da, duk da haka, wasu alamun bayyanar. Babban fasalin hali na yarinya da ke fuskantar rikici na shekaru 7 shine bayyanar artificiality, deliberateness, antipathy, manicuring. Yarinka zai iya fara magana da ɓatacce, alal misali, squeaky, murya, canji da sauransu. Yarar da yara ya yi hasara: yanzu nauyin motsa jiki na waje ba ya haifar da wani abu na farko, na halitta, nan da nan, kamar yadda ya faru a cikin jaririn. Tsakanin abin da ya faru da kuma amsawa zuwa gare shi, lokacin da ake magana akan "raguwa a ciki," wani ɓangaren fasaha ya bayyana. Yaro ya fara bambanta waje da na ciki, zai iya fara "kare" duniya ta ciki,
Yadda za a magance rikicin shekaru 7?
Menene za a yi lokacin da yaronka ke da rikici na shekaru 7? Shawara mafi muhimmanci a kowane hali shine kiyaye kulawar kai. Haka ne, yana da wuyar gaske, lokacin da yaron yaron a kusa da agogo, kamar ƙoƙarin ƙoƙarin fitar da iyaye daga kansu. Amma duk da haka babban aikin iyaye a cikin wannan halin shine ba "tada ƙugiya ba", da kiyaye ma'auni na laushi da kuma tsananin. Kada ka sanya sha'awar ɗan yaron, amma, saka shi a wurin, gwada kada ka bari ka karya, ka yi fushi. Ka tuna cewa matsalolin na wucin gadi ne, kuma halin da ake ciki na ɗanka a yanzu shi ne bangare na canje-canje a cikin halinsa, ci gaba.