Mata da maza suna kira shi da bambanci, a cikin ra'ayi na farko, yana tasowa, yayin da ƙarshen ya ɗauka daukar nauyin kwakwalwa, yawo, da dai sauransu. A cewar wakilan jinsin raunana, duk abin da suke yi shi ne don kyakkyawan dangantaka, kuma ba ta wata wulakanci ba ko zagi wanda ake ƙauna. Domin fahimtar wannan matsala, dole ne ku saurari ra'ayi na bangarorin biyu.
Maza maza
Ga kusan kowane memba na da karfi da jima'i, duk littattafai suna bunkasa bisa ga irin wannan labari. Da farko, duk abin da ya kasance kamar hikimar. Romance , ƙauna, jin kamar jarumi, amma sai dangantaka ta shiga sabon matakin kuma ka riga ka raba kashi na biyu na sararin samaniya. Wannan shine inda wasan ya fara. Don wani dalili, wani mutum ƙaunatacciyar ƙauna ya zama abin halittar marar amfani, wanda a cikin wannan rayuwa ba shi da wani abu. Gaba ɗaya, don haka mutum baya yin hakan, har yanzu yana da laifi ga wani abu, kuma yana da matukar wuya a rayu kamar wannan, kuma ba zai yiwu ba. A nan, alal misali, yanayin da ya saba da shi: "Wata mace tana shirya abincin dare kuma yana son mai ƙaunataccen saya kayan lambu, kuma yana manta da kullum. A sakamakon abin kunya, sai ya dawo cikin babban kanti kuma ya kawo babban fashi a cikin bege na jin kalmomin yabo. Amma a maimakon haka, ƙaunatacciyar ƙaunatacciyar tambaya tana tambaya, kuma ba zai saya burodi ba, domin ya san cewa yana ƙarewa. " A irin wannan lokacin, kowane mutum yana so yayi fashewa don jefa wannan ganye a gaban fuskarsa mai ƙauna kuma ya bar. Wannan shi ne a gare su kuma akwai ganin da kuma cire kwakwalwa.
Mene ne dalili?
Duk zargi shi ne saba fahimtar juna. Don dalilai, mata da yawa suna tunanin cewa mutane suna yin komai, misali, manta da saya wani abu, tayi murna ga dan uwanka a ranar haihuwarsa, kira don kaya, da dai sauransu. Wajibi ne a fahimci abin da ke cikin tunanin kowane mutum, kuma mutum ba banda bane, yawancin bayanai da kwakwalwar da ake sawa a wasu lokutan bazai iya tunawa da sunanku ba. Saboda haka, don kauce wa duk abin kunya da abin kunya, kawai tunatar da abin ƙaunataccenka abin da yake bukata ya yi, to, babu wani yankan.
Wataƙila, ga yawancin mata wannan matsala ce, saboda sun iya cewa: "Ba za ku iya yin wani abu ba, duk mutane suna kama da mutane, kuma ba ku da maras tushe. Kowace rana a gare ku na yi duk abin da zai yiwu kuma ba zai yiwu ba ... ", maimakon maye gurbin shi duka tare da kalmar da aka saba amfani da su:" Ku fitar da datti ". Ku yi imani da ni, babu wani mutum da zai fahimci bukatar, idan kun ce duk abin da yake a cikin farko, don haka ku koyi yadda za ku bayyana ra'ayoyinku a bayyane.
Cikakken cikakken
Wani mutum mai ƙauna yakan cika buƙatun matarsa, hakika, idan sun kasance cikin dalili. Amma idan bukatun ku canja kowane rabin sa'a, misali, yi, a'a, kada ku yi, da sauransu. Wani mutum za a dauka kamar sacewa kuma zai tabbatar da cewa baku san abin da kuke so ba. Saboda haka, kafin ka tambayi wani abu, a fili ka bayyana abin da kake so kuma kawai sai ka faɗi ra'ayinka.
Koyo don zama daban
Idan kayi la'akari da waɗannan bukatu kuma ku fara yin hali kamar mace mai hikima , to, babu abin da za a yanke shi. Mawuyacin jima'i, yana da mahimmanci, amma kawai kada ka karanta tunanin, don haka idan kana son wani abu, kada ka tsammanin zai yi tunanin, amma kawai ka ce haka. Saboda haka, ba za ku ji kunya ba a gare shi, kuma bazai buƙatar da tunaninsa ba kuma ku san abin da ya sa kuka yi "lakabi". Matar da ke da irin wannan basira ba ta da daraja, mutum zai kasance da shirye ya dauki ku a hannunsa kuma ya cika dukkan bukatu da bukatunku.