Tun da yara an koya mana cewa ƙauna mai yiwuwa ne kawai a tsakanin yaro da yarinya, da kuma jima'i tsakanin maza da mata a waje da doka. Mun girma, kowa yana da ra'ayinsu game da masu sha'awar jima'i da jima'i, amma a halin yanzu al'amuran yau da kullum suna sa mutane da yawa su ji tsoro. Shin al'ada ne na al'ada don kulawa da jinsin maza biyu a matsayin masu yin jima'i?
Dalilin bisexuality a cikin maza da mata
Da farko dai, ana ganin bisexuality ne kawai daga ra'ayi na physiology. Muna magana ne game da hermaphrodites, mutanen da suka mallaki dabi'un maza da mata. A tsakiyar zamanai, waɗannan mutane an dauke su samfurin shaidan kuma aka kashe su. Daga baya, mutanen "tsakiyar tsakiya" sun dakatar da tsanantawa kuma sun fara aiki, suna barin jima'i ɗaya.
Idan muka yi magana game da bisexuality kamar yadda ake so, to, Sigmund Freud ne ya ba da gudummawa sosai ga nazarin wannan abu. Kafin shi akwai ra'ayi cewa an haifi mutum tare da wani hali na jima'i. Freud kuma ya nuna cewa ba da gangan ba duk mutane ne bisexual, wato, a cikin kowane mutum tun lokacin haihuwa akwai tsarin halayyar mutum da mata. A mafi yawancin lokuta, yayin da kake girma, duk abin da ke hade da kishiyar jinsi jima'i ana turawa. Bincike mai girma a wannan yanki ne A. Kinsey, wanda ya gano cewa bisexuality ba abu ne mai ban mamaki ba - kimanin kashi 28% na 'yan mata da 46% na maza suna da jima'i ko kuma suna da kwarewa tare da' yan mata.
Shin bisexuality al'ada?
Duk da dukkanin binciken, masana kimiyya ba su fahimci wane rukuni ya kamata a dauka bisexuality - gameda hankali ko halayen mutum na ci gaba. Wasu masanan suna shakkar wanzuwar mace ko namiji bisexuality, la'akari da shi wani mataki na wucin gadi daga tsarin jima'i na jima'i ga ɗan kishili. Kodayake mafi yawancin sun kasance suna nuna sha'awar wakiltar jinsin maza da namiji a matsayin jima'i, maimakon hanyar da za ta ɓoye sha'awar 'yan luwaɗi. To, ko dai yana da kyau ga irin wannan jima'i ko a'a, yana da kowane mutum don yanke shawarar kansa.
Gwaji don bisexuality mata
Kuma ta yaya kuka san idan mutum ya kasance bisexual? A cikin bayyanar, wannan ba zai yiwu ba, za ta ɗauki gwaji na kwakwalwa, jagorancin kwararru ko kuma kai tsaye. Babu gwajin daya don gano alamun bisexuality. Wasu gwaje-gwaje sun ƙayyade tsarin halayyar da ke halayyar mutum kuma bisa ga waɗannan bayanai game da al'adun gargajiya ko na al'ada. Sauran suna bayar da shawarar yin la'akari da halayensu, jima'i, sha'awar sha'awa da kuma abubuwan da suke so don bayyana batun batutuwan su. Ya fi dacewa don amfani da gwaje-gwaje daga ƙungiya ta biyu, tun da yake yawancin maza da mata maza da mata suna da dabi'un halayyar da ke da mahimmanci ga mutanen da ba jima'i ba.
Don ƙayyade sha'awarka ga wannan ko irin wannan jima'i, amsa tambayoyin da suka biyo baya.
- kuna jin ƙauna ga abokiyarku mafi kyau? Shin kuna so ku rungume ta, ku dambe ta, watakila kunna ta da wani abu? Kuna son ta tabawa?
- Shin za ku je gwaji kawai don gwada bisexuality?
- Shin yarinyar mata tana faranta maka rai? Kuna la'akari da jikin mace mai ɗorewa? Kuna sha'awan siffofin mata masu kyau?
- karanta game da bisexuality, shin kuna shakkar abin da kuke nufi, kuna ji tsoron yiwuwar motsi zuwa wani "sansanin"?
- kuna jin tausayi, soyayya, tausayi, bukatar fahimtar da gafara ga wasu?
- yaya tunanin ku? Shin yana da sauƙi a gare ka ka canza motsin rai ga wani, yana da sauƙi don ba ka daidaita - don dariya, fushi, fushi, farin ciki ko kunya?
- Shin kuna ganin mafarki ne? Shin kuna da zinawa?
- Shin kuna son yin jima'i sau da yawa? Kuna son shigarwa, gwaje-gwajen da iri iri a jima'i? Kuna tsammanin cewa jima'i ba shine ba
Shin za a iya hana shi idan dai abokan biyu suna cike da farin ciki? - Kuna son gwada "ZHMZH" guda uku?
Ƙarin tambayoyin da kuke samu daga amsoshi masu kyau ("yes", "a'a maimakon babu"), mafi girma shine yiwuwar bisexuality. Idan ka ce "a'a" zuwa dukan tambayoyin, to, kai 100% namiji ne. Kodayake irin wadannan amsoshin zasu iya magana game da matsalolin da ke cikin jima'i, da kuma game da matakin ƙananan hali na jima'i ga kowane jinsi.