Menene kowane wata ga 'yan mata?

A cikin rayuwar kowane yarinya ya zo lokacin da tambaya ta fito game da abin da yake a kowane wata kuma lokacin da ake lura da su a cikin 'yan mata. Bari mu dubi wannan yanayin kuma muyi shawara ga iyaye mata: yadda za a bayyana wa yaron abin da yake a kowane wata kuma a wane lokaci ya zama dole don gudanar da tattaunawar akan wannan batu.

Idan ya wajaba a gaya wa yata game da haila?

Yawancin iyaye sunyi la'akari da cewa a yau, a cikin shekarun da suka gabata, yara suna ci gaba da ci gaba don haka suna iya samun amsoshin tambayoyin su ba tare da sa hannu ba. Wannan shine yarinyar 'yan mata suna koyon abin da ke faruwa a kowane wata don mata daga Intanet ko daga' yan budurwa. Duk da haka, wannan ba daidai ba ne.

Fara fara magana da 'yan mata na gaba na uwar su zama kimanin shekaru 10. Lokaci ne da masana masu tunani a hankali sunyi la'akari da dacewa. Bugu da ƙari, a yau yau da kullum al'amuran (farkon haila) sun zo a baya fiye da wajabta shekaru 12-13.

Yadda za a bayyana wa yarinyar, menene irin wannan wata?

Don yakamata ya bayyana wa 'yar abin da yake a kowane wata, me yasa kuma yadda suke faruwa a jikin mace, mece ma'anar su, dole ne mu bi ka'idojin da suka biyo baya:

1. Dole ne a fara magana game da haila a lokacin da ya fara. Zai fi kyau idan tattaunawar ta faru a cikin yanayin mahallin. Alal misali, zaka iya farawa da gaskiyar cewa akwai lokacin da yarinya zata kasance kamar mahaifiyarta: za'a sami kirji da gashi a wasu wurare.
2. A hankali, yayin da kake kusa da shekaru 10, fara gaya wa yaron cikakkun bayanai.
3. Tuni a cikin shekaru 10-11 yarinyar zata iya faɗar abin da halayen halayen yake, menene sake zagaye na al'ada. Yana da matukar muhimmanci a amsa tambayoyin da yaron zai yi. Idan mahaifiyar bata san yadda za a amsa shi ba, to ya fi dacewa a ce za ta amsa kadan daga baya sai ka yi shiru kuma ka bar tambaya ba tare da kulawa ba.
4. Duk amsoshin ya kamata ya zama mai sauki. Babu buƙatar shiga cikin ainihin tsari (magana game da kwayoyin halitta, yanayin da ke cikin sake zagayowar). Yarinyar zata sami bayanai mai yawa wanda ya bayyana abin da yake a kowane wata, wanda wannan tsari ya zama dole a cikin jikin mata da kuma sau da yawa ana fitar da jini.
5. Babu wani abin da ya dace, don bayyana wa yarinyar abin da yake kowane wata, don yin amfani da wannan ma'anar azaman littafi ko bidiyo. Za a iya amfani da su kawai a matsayin abin da ake kira farawa. Bayan haka, mahaifiyar, ta kanta, ta hanya mai sauƙi, mai sauƙi, tana magana game da wannan tsari.
6. Mutane da yawa masu kwakwalwa suna bayar da shawara a wannan irin hira don mayar da hankali kan kwarewar mutum. Don haka, alal misali, mahaifiyar zata iya bayyana yadda ta samu game da watanni na fari kuma bayan haka ya tambayi budurwar ta abin da ta ji game da wannan, abin da ta ji tsoro yana hade da haila ta farko.
7. Koyaushe ƙoƙarin amsa tambayoyin yaron kuma a lokaci guda amsa kawai gareshi, ba tare da yada yarinyar ba tare da buƙatacce kuma wani lokaci ba da dalili ba. Ku yi imani da ni, yaro na shekaru 10-12 bai buƙatar sanin duk halaye na ilimin mata ba.

Saboda haka, wajibi ne a ce kafin a bayyana wa 'yarka, cewa kowane wata, mumini ya kamata ya shirya shi don irin wannan tattaunawa da kuma zaɓar yanayi mai dacewa. Zai zama manufa idan yarinyar kanta ta tambayi mahaifiyarta game da ita.

Yaya za a bayyana dan yaron, menene kowane wata?

Tambayoyi akai-akai game da kowane wata yana bayyana a cikin samari. A wannan yanayin, iyaye ba za su bar su ba tare da hankali ba.

Yarinyar a irin waɗannan lokuta zai sami cikakken bayani cewa wannan tsari na ilimin lissafi wanda ke faruwa a cikin jikin kowane yarinya a kowane wata, yana da muhimmanci ga haihuwar yara. A matsayinka na mai mulki, yara ba sa tambayoyi da yawa.