Muna damu, muna fuskantar farin ciki, farin ciki , jin kunya, fushi, kamar yadda muka yi imani, saboda kasancewa ko babu wani abu a rayuwarmu. Duk da haka, mai ilimin kwantar da hankali Albert Ellis ya tabbatar da cewa ba mu fushi ba saboda wani yayi kururuwa a kanmu, amma saboda yadda muka gane wannan gaskiyar.
Mahaliccin mai kirkirar hankali shine Albert Ellis. Wannan wani ɓangare ne na ƙwararrun tunani wanda yake nazari da kuma kawar da amsar ɗan adam. Kamar yadda Ellis ya ce, mutum ba shi da hanzari, ya haɓaka halayen wani abu, aikinsa ya dogara ne akan hanyar da ya fahimci yanayin da kansa.
ABC ka'idar
Rationally-emotional psychotherapy kuma ake kira da ABC ka'idar. Inda A akwai abubuwan da suka faru, yanayi, hujjoji, ayyuka, B suna da ra'ayoyi game da rayuwa, addini, ra'ayoyin, hukunce-hukuncen, da kuma C - sakamakon, wato, amsawa. Yi imani, mutumin da yake tafiya a kafa a cikin jirgin, zai iya amsawa sosai ba tare da wata shakka ba - zai iya yin rikici, kuka, shiga cikin yakin, ko dai shiru shiru. Don gane hangen nesa, wanda zai iya sani kawai "B" - ra'ayi game da rayuwa, ra'ayoyin, bangaskiya, hukunce-hukuncen, yanayi, hali , fasalin "ƙafar ƙafa a cikin jirgin".
Rationally-emotional psychotherapy deals tare da nazarin rashin aiki da kuma rashin dacewar halayen a cikin hali mutum. Irin wannan halayen yakan haifar da mummunan halayyar psyche, sabili da haka ka'idar ABC ba wai kawai nazarin ba ne, amma har ma yana kawar da bala'i.
Far
Ayyuka marasa dacewa suna bi da su tare da taimakon psychotherapy. A lokuta masu karɓar zuciya, masu tunani a hankali sun tambayi mutumin da ba shi da kyau ya amsa game da yanayin rayuwa da kuma gina sakon ABC. Ya kamata ya bayyana halin da ake ciki, ya rubuta prehistory (jihar da A ya faru) da kuma ƙarshe (C). Bayan haka, an miƙa shi don yayi la'akari da wasu zaɓuɓɓuka - yanayin yana daidai, amma B ya bambanta, menene C zai kasance?
Wannan aikin za a iya yi a kan kansa, a gida, lokacin da ka lura a kan ka da rashin dacewar halayenka zuwa yanayin rayuwa da kuma yanayin rayuwa.