Duk wani ƙananan yara suna fuskantar matsaloli daban-daban. Wadannan zasu iya zama jituwa a kan matsalolin yau da kullum, akan tayar da yara, kuma, ba shakka, yin jayayya da iyaye. 'Yan mata, suna neman matsayin mace mai aure, sun ce mahaifiyarta ta samo ta, amma yadda za a sanya shi a wurin ba ta fahimta ba, kuma sau da yawa sukan koka game da matsaloli a dangantaka da mahaifiyarta.
Uwargidan yara suna da wuya a yi haƙuri ga wasu mata a cikin rayuwar ɗayansu. Wasu suna da kishi, wasu baza su iya gwada darajar kulawarsu game da ɗayan da ya tsufa ba. Tabbas, akwai takardun kowannen da basu damu da rayukansu ba, saboda haka an sauya su zuwa dangin ɗansu.
Yadda za a kare iyalinka daga tasirin wani?
Na farko, don a sanya ta a matsayin mahaifiyar mahaifiyarsa, masu ilimin kimiyya suna jaddada cewa mata ya kamata su fahimci irin dangantakar da ke tsakanin mahaifiyarka - wannan shine, na farko, mahaifiyar ƙaunataccenka. Saboda haka, ba lallai ba ne don gudanar da tashin hankali, to lallai ya zama dole ya zama makirci. Hakanan zaka iya tunani game da yadda zaka sanya uwar surukarka a matsayin danta, don kada ya zama abokin gaba. Wannan kuma wani zaɓi mai tasiri.
Da farko, yi kokarin kiran uwar surukinka don yin magana ta gari a cikin yamma "gilashin shayi." Ka yi ƙoƙari ya nuna mata cewa ba damuwa ba ne game da dancinta, ba ka da ƙaunarsa, kuma kana son kula da shi dare da rana. Kuna aiki da sunan daya manufa , don haka gwada kiran mahaifiyarka a cikin sakonni, to, babu tambayoyi game da yadda zaka sanya uwar surukinka a wurinka. Tabbas, yana da kyau ya fara tattaunawa idan gidanka yana da tsabta da tsabta, kuma mijinki yana da dadi sosai.Idan tattaunawa mai kyau ba ta da ƙarfi, ka bayyana tashin hankali, amma a cikin yanayin sanyi. Kada ku tsawata wa surukarku a gaban mijinta kuma kuyi aiki tare da ita cikin mutunci. Amma a lokaci guda ka yi ƙoƙarin yin shi domin ta so ya zo maka ko sadarwa kamar yadda ya kamata.
Alal misali, da sha'awar lafiyarta, jaddada cewa yana kama da yau ba kome ba. Idan surukarka tana so ya zauna tare da kai, zaka iya fara gyarawa a cikin gidan wanka ko kuma a cikin ɗakin abinci, wanda ba zai da lokaci ya ƙare kafin ta dawo. Ka tambayi dangi da tambayoyi masu ban sha'awa ga surukar mahaifi: "Shin wannan ba Mikhail Kuzmich ba ne, wanda kuka kira, mamma, kwanan nan. To, wanda yake wawa? ". Bayar da yara su yi wasa da ƙananan wasanni, kadan ya tsaya tsayi ko kiran dukan ɗaliban su ziyarci ku.