Babu irin wannan uwa a cikin duniya wanda ba ta fuskanci bayyanuwar sha'awar jaririnta ba. Kodayake akwai ra'ayi wanda ba'a so ya raba shi ne sakamakon rashin ilimi, rashin kulawa, ko kuma mummunar hali, wanda kana buƙatar "ƙone da wuta da takobi", a gaskiya, wannan ba haka bane. Don haka mecece son zuciya? Yadda za a magance shi da kuma koya wa yaron ya raba - nemi amsoshi a cikin labarinmu.
Ƙari na yara - daga 1.5 zuwa 3 shekaru
A cikin shekaru 2 da haihuwa, mahaifiyata ta fara da tsoro don lura cewa ta, kafin irin wannan da karimci, jaririn ya zama mummunan zato. Yin tafiya a kan kotu shi ne hakikanin gwaji: yaro yana kishiya kare kayan wasansa, ba tare da wani abu ba, amma bai ki yarda da kayan wasa ba. Harkokin jama'a na yin magana mai tsanani: "Yaron ya aikata mugunta! Tana ta gaggauta shiga cikin tarinsa! "A gaskiya, babu wani abu mai ban tsoro da kuma buƙatar gaggawa ta gaggawa ba zai faru ba, yaro ne kawai ya shiga mataki na gaba na cigaba. Lokacin da yake da shekaru 1,5-2, yaron ya gane kansa a matsayin mutumin da ke da 'yanci na mallaka. A wannan lokaci ne kalmomin nan "I", "mine" suka bayyana a cikin ƙamus na yaron kuma ya fara kare kansa. Yaya zan iya nunawa ga mahaifiyata? Akwai hanyoyi biyu na hali:
- Yaron ya kamata ya raba - a wannan yanayin, mahaifiyar tana cikin gefen al'umma, saboda haka ya saba wa jaririnta. Hanyar wannan kuskure ne, saboda yaro ba ya fahimci tunanin Mama, amma yana kallon abu daya: mahaifiyata tana tare da waɗanda suke so su zarga shi.
- Yara zai iya raba - mahaifiyar ya ba da yaron ya raba abin wasa, amma zaɓin karshe ya bar shi. A wannan yanayin, yaron ba ya jin an tsare shi, mai laifi, ko mara kyau.
Babban aikin da ke fuskantar mahaifiyar shine ya sa fahimtar yaron cewa akwai "wani", wanda za'a iya ɗauka tare da izinin mai shi. Yarinya a cikin shekaru biyu ya rigaya ya iya rarrabe tsakanin waƙa da sauran mutane kuma ya kamata ya fahimci cewa ba tare da buƙatar ba za a iya rasa su ba.
Yara da yara - daga shekaru 3 zuwa 5
A lokacin da yake da shekaru 3, lokaci ya yi don haɗin da yara ke ciki. A cikin sana'a da kuma filin wasa, yara sukan fara shiga kananan kungiyoyi da abubuwan wasan kwaikwayo zama ɓangare na wasan. A wannan lokacin, yaro ya fara raba kayan wasansa tare da wasu don kare haɗin haɗin gwiwar. Amma sau da yawa iyaye suna lura cewa karimcin yaron ya zaɓa. Yin musayar wasan kwaikwayo tare da wasu yara, har yanzu bai yarda da wasu garesu ba. Shin zai yiwu a yi la'akari da irin wannan yaron da yake so? A'a, a'a, kuma babu kuma. Bayan haka, doka ta "zagaye na kusa" tana aiki: yaron ya yarda kawai waɗanda suke jin tausayinsa, kuma ba ya jin tausayi ga waɗannan mutane. Saboda haka, idan yarinya ya yi hulɗa tare da 'yan uwa da abokai, to ba shi da kyau don ya kunyata shi saboda sha'awar wasu. Zai yiwu ya nuna kawai ta hanyar misali marar kyau, cewa yin tarayya tare da wasu yana da kyau kuma mai kyau.
Yarar yara - daga 5 zuwa 7 shekaru
Lokacin da yake shekaru 5-7, rashin amincewa da kowa ya yi magana da kowa yana magana game da matsalolin halayyar yaron da yaron ya kasance: haɓaka a cikin iyali, kishi ga wani ɗan'uwa ko 'yar'uwa , ƙishirwar shugabancin shugabanci, kunya , pedantry. A wannan yanayin, iyaye za su iya tilasta yaro ya rabawa tare da wasu, amma matsalolin da ke cikin zurfin hali ba zai warware shi ba. Hanyar hanyar fita ita ce ta je shawara tare da likitan ɗan adam wanda zai taimaka wajen gano dalilin. Kuma yayinda yaron zai iya magance matsalolin su ya dogara ne a kan iyayensa: burin su sake bincika dangantaka a cikin iyali, don tallafa wa yaran a lokutan wahala.