Wasu lokuta zaka iya mamakin yadda kake ji game da abokin hulɗar. Yana da alama cewa babu wani abu marar kyau a gare shi, amma kuna ji damuwa (daga murya, wari) kuma kuna gaggauta kawar da al'umma mai raɗaɗi a gareku. Ana jin dadin jin da kake fuskanta shine rashin tausayi a cikin ilimin halin mutum, kuma zamuyi magana game da shi a yau.
Jin tausayi da kuma rashin tausayi a cikin ilimin halayyar sadarwa
Yana da wuya a yi tsammani cewa, ba kamar tausayi ba, rashin tausayi yana nufin wani tunanin jin kunya da mawuyacin hali, wanda ya hana mu fahimci bayanin da aka samu daga mutum, yin hulɗa tare da mai shiga kuma, saboda haka, samun sakamako mai kyau. Ɗaya daga cikin misalai da sukafi dacewa da rashin tausayi da tausayi ga mutane da yawa sun hadu a makaranta. Sau da yawa, ƙiyayya da malamin ya sa mu ba da amsa ga bayanin da muka samu ba. Kamar dai rashin tausayi ko kuma, akasin haka, jin tausayi, yana shafar ƙwarewar ilimin malamin da kuma bukatunsa don ci gaban wasu dalibai.
Bari mu dubi manyan alamu na tausayi da kuma rashin tausayi a cikin sadarwa.
Alamun kallo na tausayi:
- Sadarwa ta hanyar sadarwa mai kyau a yankin da ake kira m zone (daga 45 cm da kusa);
- Bude dabino, rashin "kulle" daga hannun da ƙafa;
- aiki "madubi gesticulation";
- madaidaici, murmushi;
- ba tare da saninsa ba.
Ayyukan gani na antipathy, ta halitta, suna fuskantar kishiya:
- Tsayar da hankali na tsaka tsakanin tsaka-tsaki;
- ƙetare makamai ko ƙafafu, sun hada yatsunsu hannu;
- ba kwafin abin da aka yi wa mai magana ba;
- idan kina shan taba, to lallai an saukar da jigon hayaki daga fuskar wani mai haɗari maras dacewa;
- Binciken daga ƙarƙashin bincikensa, bincike mai laushi, wani bakin ciki;
- tashin hankali a cikin tsokoki, ji na rashin jin daɗin ciki.
Dalilin cututtuka
Ƙaƙamacin abokin tarayya zai iya tashi don dalilai daban-daban. Wani lokaci ana iya fahimtar su (rashin jin dadi), kuma wani lokaci dole ka yi wa kanka ka fahimci dalilin da yasa wani mutum ya nuna rashin amincewa a gare ku (rashin jin dadi).
Alal misali, rashin tausayi zai iya haifar da wasu ayyuka na mutum, saboda bambancin ra'ayoyin siyasar ko saboda bambance-bambance na duniya. Wasu lokuta muna fushi da bayyanar, halaye da halayyar wasu mutane. Bugu da ƙari, kwakwalwa yana so ya zana daidaito. Idan ka sadu da mutum ta amfani da turare wanda kuke da tunanin da ya dace, to, wataƙila wata damuwa ta rashin tausayi zai haifar da rashin tausayi. Hakazalika, muna amsa murfin murya ko, misali, halaye na sababbin sababbin sanannun mutane - ba da son zuciya ba don neman daidaito a cikin tarihin ƙwaƙwalwar. Irin wannan mummunan tunani a cikin ilimin kwakwalwa an kira tarayya ne.
Ko da yake, a lokaci guda ƙimar mutum zai iya zama maɗaukaki da ruɗi. Halin motsa jiki na iya ƙuntata rayuwar mutane waɗanda suke da kyau da kuma hypochondriac, sabili da haka wani lokacin yana yiwuwa kuma ya kamata ya yi yaki da rashin tausayi.
Yadda za a magance wulakanci?
- gwada gwadawa da gaske, abin da kake tura ka a cikin mutum. Ƙayyade irin nauyin rashin jin daɗinka, gano ta bayani na ma'ana. Wani lokaci yana da ban dariya cewa sakar kayan aiki ya karya ta atomatik;
- bincika mutumin, gano abubuwa masu kyau;
- hanya ɗaya ta magance rashin ƙauna, ta hanyar saɓani kamar yadda sauti yake, shine kula da mutum. Muna godiya ga abin da muke zuba jari a;
- Ana iya yin la'akari da muminai waɗanda za su ambaci wani mutum marar kyau a addu'a, yana roƙon Allah ya yantar da zuciya daga motsin zuciyarmu.
A gefe guda kuma, ya kamata ku fahimci cewa rashin tausin zuciya shine jin daɗin lafiya wanda yake kama da kusan dukkan mutane. Idan ba ya dame ku (alal misali, kuna ganin abu mara kyau ba da wuya), to, kada ku zargi kanku saboda mummunan motsin rai. Yi hankali a kan lokuta masu dadi kuma ka kewaye kanka da mutanen da zumunci suka kawo maka murna!